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Hello? [May. 15th, 2005|07:43 pm]

Is this community still active?
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Hello out there! [Jul. 26th, 2004|12:29 pm]

Bonobo Girls are:
polyamorous, monogamous, gay, straight, bi, old, young, passive, aggressive, rich, poor, every color, every religion, feminine, masculine, androgynous, and just about anything else you can imagine. We are simply women who want to learn how to put to rest all the internalized oppression and unite.

Bonobo Girls is an area where we can check our differences at the door and realize that we're all in this together, regardless of the ways we choose to accomplish our tasks or embody our feminist ideals. While this is a safe place to share opinions about feminism and the world at large, we do so in a respectful manner, even when we disagree.

I started Bonobo Girls after getting very tired of sociobiologists interpreting their data to suggest that males are simply biologically predetermined to oppress females. Considering the inherent biases that come with just about any academic study, I set out to find information that could counter this.

I also had a lot of heartbreak as a young, idealistic feminist when I saw women divided and oppressing one another. With so much rivalry infighting, there is little room left for anything productive.

Personally, I'm bisexual, but in a monogamous relationship with a man. I'd experimented with polyamoury in my early twenties, but found that it wasn't for me. I have many dear friends who are poly and respect their choices. It seems to be working for them.

I'm also a physical feminist. I very strongly feel that women do not have to fear male violence as much when they learn to protect themselves. (Bonobo feminism also works here, as women can band together and chase off attackers.) Athleticism is another aspect. I feel that while coming a long way, the world has yet to fully appreciate a woman's body as more than a sex/baby machine.

Anyone else care to introduce themselves? :)
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(no subject) [Jul. 24th, 2004|12:12 pm]

in order to be a bonobo girl, does one have to be polygamous?
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(no subject) [Apr. 4th, 2004|02:04 pm]

You might be a Bonobo Girl if:
1. You don't hate your exboyfriend's new girlfriend when she's done nothing wrong. Nor do you go out of your way to find fault or flaws in her.

2. You are happy for your best friend when things go her way.

3. You get seriously, righteously pissed off when you see the injustices that are perpetrated against women in the world. Then you go and do something about them.

4. You've read Cunt, the Vagina Monologues, or any other seriously kickass feminist book and finally felt like you were understood.

5. You might have some healthy competition with other women for things that really are important, like getting promotions, etc., but you don't have a personal vendetta against the individual. Also, your competitiveness is expressed in balanced, healthy ways, not cutting the other person down to look better.

6. You want to feel closer to other women.

7. You try not to take their rejection of you personally and understand that we all have socialization issues.

8. You hug your female friends and value your time together.

9. You recognize all forms of feminism as valid in their own right, and respect the individual's right to their own opinons, whether or not you agree with them.

10. You feel that there are many groups of women who are still overlooked by feminism, and want to help them out, too.

Well, those are some of my ideas, for starters.
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(no subject) [Jan. 19th, 2004|05:45 pm]

What are some fringe groups of women you feel need to be protected? I've been thinking about prostitutes a lot lately, and how they are seen as easy targets. Any thoughts?
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(no subject) [Jan. 9th, 2004|08:23 pm]

Does anybody have a user icon they'd like to give to bonobogirls? The silly witchy-poo thing was put up there as something temporary, as any pics of bonobos I've come across wouldn't fit. Suggestions?
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(no subject) [Dec. 28th, 2003|04:45 pm]

[mood |pleasedpleased]

The American Family Association marriage poll as of 4:30 today....if you haven't voted, please do or pass it on.

I oppose legalization of homosexual marriage and "civil unions" 31.97% (205598 votes)

I favor legalization of homosexual marriage 59.81% (384648 votes)

I favor a "civil union" with the full benefits of marriage except for the name 8.22% (52866 votes)

oh, and HAH!

Cross-posted in my journal, bonobogirls, </span>queercelts and </span>womenofstrength

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Here's a question for everyone: [Dec. 28th, 2003|11:58 am]

How do you think you can practice bonobo feminism in your day to day lives?
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Hope it's okay to post this here [Dec. 19th, 2003|06:49 pm]

[mood |worriedparanoid]

As a serious advocate of fighting back against attack, I have to say I find this very disturbing. A woman who fought off an attacker was convicted, on what seems very little evidence, of killing another man. I haven't investigated the veracity, I will admit, but no matter what anyone decides about her case from reading this, the idea that defending yourself against an attack might help set you up if someone completely unrelated to the attack is murdered is a bit unnerving.


crossposted in antirape, feminist_fury and womenofstrength (found on greenparty)
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heh heh [Dec. 19th, 2003|06:27 pm]

Bakersfield prostitute strips attacker and takes him to police

Thursday, December 18, 2003


(12-18) 09:59 PST BAKERSFIELD, Calif. (AP) --

A skinny rapist met his match in an angry, 275-pound prostitute, police said.

Adrian Castillo Ramirez, 140 pounds, allegedly tried to sexually assault a 24-year-old Bakersfield prostitute who was nearly twice his weight.

But she took his knife, stripped him naked and paraded him in front of other prostitutes, after asking how many of them had ever been forced into sex at knifepoint. Then she tried to take him -- still naked -- to the police station, reports said.

Castillo was charged with failing to register as a sex offender, and with committing forcible sex acts on the 24-year-old and on a 37-year-old woman in a previous incident. He also was convicted of four counts of rape in 1988.

Castillo pleaded innocent Wednesday, and is being held in lieu of $250,000 bail, police said.

***Crossposted to antirape***
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